It is a wise father that knows his own child. – William Shakespeare
How many of you out there think being a dad is the best thing that’s ever happened? I do. I love it! But it’s not all gravy, is it? When you were young, did you have this fantastic notion, like me, that being a dad would consist of the following:
- Playing hockey/football/basketball every waking moment.
- Teaching your kids every possible thing you know, them sitting attentively, taking in every single word you spoke.
- Taking them to every sporting event imaginable. Taking them on a tour of every stadium (insert your sport here) to watch every team play a game.
- Always laughing, always playing, never ever having to be the disciplinarian – leave that stuff up to mom!
Well, if that’s your life now – Man, I hate you. No, actually, good for you! Someday maybe I’ll get there too.
My reality of fatherhood doesn’t play out exactly like that ideal dream I once had. I play a bit of football with my kids, I teach them a few things when they’ll listen, we’ve never been to any stadiums (yet) and we manage to laugh and play quite a bit. I do this all while being the disciplinarian in the house (I’ll explain that further some other time)! My reality is that I make a lot of mistakes as a dad, I don’t have infinite amount of time to spend with them, and I don’t have money galore to take them everywhere they want or buy them everything they ask for (not a bad thing). My reality is that being a father is a lot harder than I ever could have imagined.
But I wouldn’t change it for the world…although I do strive to make things better.
I wonder how all of you out there feel about this. Is being a father what you expected? What are those things you always wanted to do with your kids, but you haven’t been able to do yet? I’m making a big list of things to do with my kids (and letting them be part of it too). I’ll share them with you some day – and how I’m making a plan to get them done. Making this plan is important as it will allow these three things:
- Writing it down and making a plan bring it closer to reality.
- Getting them involved ensures that the things that I want are aligned with the things that they want. We’re going to have a lifelong partnership of working together – not battling against each other.
- I want to do as much as I can with my kids because I want to truly know them before they wander off in this world and make their way without me.
I hope, like me, you are embracing the tough times, and making things better every day! Ciao for now.